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Monday, August 31, 2009
Living in a Vacuum
I grew up in a small town that was (and still is) a lot like Ozark. In all of the years that I lived there, there weren't more than a few African-American families that moved into town...and they never stayed for long. We had plenty of families with Mexican backgrounds...but that wasn't the same (or as bad) as being black. All in all, my sixties childhood was spent with white kids, white families in a white town.
I am surprised (and thankful) that I have had to overcome as few prejudices as I have. Hopefully, my kids will have even fewer.
That is a challenge when you consider that our part of the Midwest is pretty much white, middle class America, located in the middle of the Bible belt. Although we are taught to love our fellow man (friends and enemies alike) in the Bible, it is easier to deal with what we don't know by maintaining a defensive posture and expecting the worst from people than by opening our minds and hearts to a different way of thinking, acting or living. The hispanic population here is pretty invisible (by their choice). The Asian population is growing and the African-American population is still considered a suspicious minority.
There is a part of me that has difficulty with the changes that are politically correct--African/American vs. black, Asian vs. oriental, Hispanic or Latino vs. Mexican or other Latino Cultures. But I really need to make those changes because I don't want to unknowingly offend someone. It should be our goal to learn about and understand the cultures that are living around us and not to speak about them out of our ignorance and hatred.
There are certainly cultures that have evolved with (and value) a purity in their race or culture. That is not the case in the United States. We are a country of immigrants. We are a blend of cultures. We have many different religious beliefs. We are a nation with many different backgrounds and origins...including the Native Americans that were here before the rest of us. We are far from a pure race. But we are Americans. I believe that our differences are part of what makes us the greatest nation on Earth. (Yes, I still believe that we are the greatest.) The people of the United States are free to come and go as they please. We travel from state to state, leave the country for vacation and business and have very few restrictions. If we want to move to another country, no one will stop you.
Though we have overcome many of the prejudices that have caused problems in the past, we still cling to others. If you are gay or Muslim (or a Democrat), you can expect to be hated in the Ozarks. Some still cling to racial prejudices (and hatred) that is very unbecoming for those that claim to be upstanding Christian citizens. In many communities, it is still the "good ol' boy" network that rules. I am often surprised by the prejudicial garbage that I still hear coming from otherwise decent people. Perhaps it is a result of living in the vacuum of the Ozarks.
I hope that as my kids grow up and expand their worlds, that they will learn about other cultures and beliefs. I hope that they will make friends and experience foods and traditions from others as well as sharing their own heritage, traditions and beliefs. I think that there is more than enough hatred in the world. It's time for us to share some love...or at least some tolerance.
John <><
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
MWT Fail
They tell me I have to wait a week before I can test again so I'll be off of the boards for another week. Sacre Bleu!
My sick leave balance is pretty low so I'll have to take advantage of my manager's generosity and spend a few days doing administrative stuff. Tomorrow I'll spend my day of sick leave and make the trip to St. Louis with some buddies from church and we'll take in some Cardinal baseball, the obligatory ball park dog, a few White Castles and the after ballgame trip to Ted Drewe's. The problem with only having four tickets is choosing just three friends. I think my pastor's disappointed that he missed the cut...maybe next time.
Anyways, I'm looking forward to a great day.
John <><
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
The Real Trick
For as long as I can remember, the failure rate for marriages has been around 50%. Half of all marriages end in divorce. It doesn't seem to matter if you get married in a church or at the court house. It doesn't seem to matter if you are younger or older. About half of the time marraiges end in divorce.
The reasons vary--money, infidelity, career moves, family problems (in-laws), etc. But the reasons for divorce are often overcome by couples that find a way to stay together. I imagine that if half of marriages end in divorce, there are many more that are void of love but the couples stay married because of kids, religious beliefs, traditions or not wanting to admit failure and suffer the shame they would feel before their families and friends.
So what's the trick? Is there a secret to a successful marriage? How do you know that you want to spend the rest of your life with that one person? Do we still think of marriage as a life long commitment? And if not...well how do you know when it's over? How do you reach the decision that I'm not going to love you anymore? How can somebody knowingly do something that will hurt the person that they've committed to love forever? And how can the offended person choose not to forgive the person that they've loved--faults and all--to this point?
How can one person just walk away and leave another person totally devastated? It would be so cool if I could tell you that putting God at the center of your marriage is the answer. But there are people that don't believe in God that have successful marriages and there are very religious people that can't seem to keep it together.
What is the secret?
In a couple of weeks, Chris and I will hit the 28 year mark. One might wonder why we ever fell in love to begin with. I love baseball, she doesn't like any sports. She's a handwashing neat freak, I'm a slob. She watches Jon and Kate + eight and The Duggers, I watch NCIS and CSI. We are as different as night and day. If I think about it too much, it scares me. In another year Hannah will graduate from high school and we will face the empty nest...another critical (and often final) moment in the life of a marriage.
I know that one might think--twenty-eight years seems like a pretty successful run. But what if we don't make it to thirty-eight? Can you say that we had a successful marriage for 30+ years and then...? Is it really a success if you don't take it all the way?
Sure, I could tell you how the street magician amazed the audience and helped the young man pull off a very memorable proposal...but I would rather tell you how they might beat the odds and enjoy a lifetime of loving one another.
What's your secret?
John <><
Wow! I just noticed that this is post #400! Thanks for reading!
Monday, August 24, 2009
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
A Great Deal
Monday, August 17, 2009
Get Some Sleep--You're Grounded
Sunday, August 16, 2009
Sorting Out the Trash & Guilty as Charged
Saturday, August 15, 2009
"The pen is mightier than the sword." Edward Bulwer-Lytton
Friday, August 14, 2009
Eating Crow
Lashing Out
Mark your calendar - This Sunday on Fox How he was participating with this man, and not for the reasons he states! He has uncovered more of Obama's radical leaders and we will see things that no one in the media is willing to put out there. This will be a night that you will learn more about Obama than ever before. Hannity is very passionate about this program and asked that everyone please, please watch~~ You can watch it if you want, but I really do believe that the program is more about ratings than about truth. Anyways, I was a bit offended by the assumption that I would be interested in this and also un happy that another well meaning person has decided that I'm a good candidate for receiving their favorite e-mail forwards (yes, they received it from someone else that forwarded it to them!). Snopes usually deters chronic forwarders, apparently not enough in their case. So I wrote asking to be removed from their e-mail list. My letter will probably get me in trouble. This was my response: Please take me off of your e-mail list. I am not a blind follower of the radical conservatives that think that every democrat is going to hell. Like it or not, Barack Obama is the President of the United States. The continuous gossip, lies, and hatred that is being spread by non-Christian conservatives and endorsed by Christian conservatives that should know the Biblical command to respect those in authority over us (Nero was the Emperor of Rome when Paul wrote this) needs to come to an end. I'm sure that the spin on the events of our President's past will be more than enough to generate great ratings for the Fox News Network. In the end, that's really all that it is about...not about truth--about ratings. As for me, I chose not to be a part of the hatred; not to be a part of the gossip; and not to be a part of the belief that every democrat is evil. (By the way, Billy Graham is a democrat.) I do chose to pray for wisdom and protection for my President and all of our leaders. You would be very surprised to know the number of Born-again religious conservatives that have not bought into the Republican Party's propaganda that if you are a Christian, you must vote Republican. I, for one, voted for Barack Obama. Another incident involved pieces of flair sent on Facebook. It came under the category nobama. It said something like--Hitler made great speeches, too. Really? You want to compare our President to Hitler? Some how I find that incredibly naive and ridiculous. I'm sure that Jews around the world would be offended at the comparison and I really don't know what the point of such a statement might be. I know that it wouldn't be to incite hate...this was from a Christian and a church member. (BTW, the other incidents were also from Christians.) Sadly, it was not even two weeks ago that I blogged about this great sermon at our church. Our memories appear to be pretty short. The words from an old song are ringing through my head right now: Go ahead and hate your neighbor, Go ahead and cheat a friend. Do it in the name of Heaven, You can justify it in the end. There won't be any trumpets blowing Come the judgement day, On the bloody morning after.... One tin soldier rides away. If you remember the end of the story told in this song, after the great battle for the mountain treasure, the valley people found that this was the treasure...Peace on Earth. Brothers and Sisters, we are fighting the wrong battle. Paul wrote that our battle is not against flesh and blood, but it is a great spiritual battle. I want to encourage you to set aside the differences of politics, culture, social status, etc. and join together to reach out to others and share the great love of our God. We ought not use the battle armor fighting against each other. It was meant for a far greater purpose. John <>< BTW, for better or worse, thanks to my friend and fellow controller/fellow blogger/fellow searcher of truth, Paul Cox, my posts to Out of My Hat now automatically appear in my Facebook notes. Thanks Paul (I think!). |
Monday, August 10, 2009
On This Day
The Fall of Jerusalem | August 10 |
Jesus warned of a time when Herod’s beautiful temple would be destroyed, but the disciples could hardly believe him. The temple was arguably the most magnificent structure in the world, and its glow in the setting sun seemed as eternal as Jerusalem itself.
But a generation later Jewish zealots revolted against Rome. The rebellion began at the fortress of Masada then spread throughout Judea and Galilee. Romans were slaughtered, Jewish defenders battled bravely, and Emperor Nero sent General Vespasian to quell the uprising.
When Nero died, the general left for Rome, placing his son Titus in charge of the 80,000 troops. The siege began in April, 70, immediately after the Passover when Jerusalem was filled with strangers. Within city walls, the Jews splintered into various factions, fighting each other at the very time they needed solidarity. Food supplies ran out and the population began dying from starvation. The high priest’s wife, accustomed to living in luxury, begged for crumbs like a street urchin. Captured Jews were crucified at a rate of 500 a day, crosses encircling the city. Daily temple sacrifices ceased July 17, all hands being needed for defense.
The Romans, using catapults and battering rams, finally broke through the walls. The Jews streamed into the temple. Titus had reportedly wanted to spare the edifice, but his soldiers would not be restrained. A firebrand was hurled through the golden gate and exploded like a bomb. The temple became an ocean of fire. It was August 10, 70, the same day of the year, it was said, in which Solomon’s earlier temple had been destroyed by Babylon.
This, and the subsequent fall of Masada, extinguished Israel as a nation until its rebirth in the twentieth century. Most Christians had fled Jerusalem before its final hour, but the city’s destruction remains a defining event in Christian history. It further severed the young church from its Jewish roots, making it a global entity distinct from Israel and destined to develop its own identity among the Gentiles, bearing a message for all the world.
"Do you see all these great buildings?" replied Jesus. "Not one stone here will be left on another; every one will be thrown down." Mark 1:1-2
Sunday, August 09, 2009
A Grand Day
Saturday, August 08, 2009
No News
Friday, August 07, 2009
Taco Bell
Taco Bell's New Green Menu Takes No Ingredients From Nature
John <><